I’m Back 

It’s currently 2:36am and I’m up writing this post because quite frankly, I’ve been gone for too long. My absence can partly be blamed on two things. Firstly, the b*tch that is  hurricane Maria. This hurricane came and turned my beautiful island upside down. Life will never be the same and I just couldn’t think about writing a blog post when my family had no electricity or water. 

Secondly,  life happens. Since my last post I celebrated my 25th birthday, moved to a new state and started a new job. Moving takes so much and two months later I am finally all settled. 

The problem with being away for so long is I get stuck trying to think of the perfect post to come back with. Well, this is the perfect post. For those of you who kept asking, “when are you gonna post?” Thanks for keeping me motivated. I’m back! 

Love,

Dee

25 Before 25: Part V

Let me start off by saying I wanted to make this post public but in light of current events, a blog post seems so insignificant. I am overwhelmed by the natural disasters, and the people who are affected by Hurricane Irma are in my thoughts and prayers.

Anyway, here’s to the last of my 25 before 25 series:

21. Clean out my closet and purchase a luxury item

I have clothes in my closet that I literally have not worn in years, but I keep them “just in case.” There is a lack of plus size clothing at places like the Salvation Army so I know there are lots of people who would benefit from me donating some of my lightly worn clothes.  As motivation to clean out my closet, I want to purchase a luxury item. I have my eyes on something, but we will see if I decide to splurge on myself.

22. Go on a no reason trip

I did this multiple times. Honestly, I really did not need to make this a goal Anyone who knows me know that I take every opportunity I can for a random trip.

23. Take myself to dinner & a movie

Being intentional about spending time with myself is so important to me. As an introvert constantly being around people can be so draining. So this goal although it’s to take myself out, just spending time alone doing something that I enjoy is the real goal.

24. Fit in Mint Swim

Draya is goals. Her body is goals, and so are her swimsuits. Once I achieve my goal of losing 25 pounds, I will be able to fit one of her regular sized swimsuits. I have my eye on the “Yaya, ” but it’s currently sold out.

25. Plan an epic girls trip to celebrate my 25th birthday

I don’t think I have ever done anything special to celebrate my birthday. The past few years my birthday came and went like a regular day. This year I wanted to do something big since I’ll be a quarter of a century! My girls and I are going to Cancun on Thursday…that’s of course if Irma, Jose, and all the other natural disasters decide to chill!

This week’s shoutout goes to Chalcia. She has been helping people locate their family members who have been affected by Irma. She is the real MVP for getting confirmation that my best friend’s cousin was safe and sound.

As always, thanks for reading.

Love,

Dee

Meal Prepping for Dummies

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In trying to accomplish my weight loss goal of 25 pounds, I realized I needed to take the nutrition portion of the weight loss equation more seriously. My biggest issue was finding time to cook healthy meals during the week. On days when I leave home at 8 am and return and 8 pm, I had no time to cook and I often found myself buying unhealthy food on the run. I had to stop making excuses and meal prepping was the solution. After watching Youtube videos and looking up ideas on Pinterest I took a stab at it, and honestly, meal prepping is the way to go.

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25 Before 25: Part IV

16. Remove my tonsils

For as long as I can remember, I have had issues with my tonsils. When ever I got a cold I knew tonsillitis would soon follow. I got infections at least three times a year, and my doctor highly recommended I removed them. Life always got in the way, and to be honest, I was just genuinely afraid. The procedure requires full anesthesia, and everyone always scared me with their recovery stories. On the 8th of August, I had a tonsillectomy. I am still recovering (the reason I have not posted in a bit-I’m sorry). I’ve had some terrible days, but the worst is behind me, plus I lost 10 pounds so no complaints over here.

17. Upgrade Dee’s Boutique

I don’t remember if I mentioned this in a previous post, but I own a Boutique in Dominica. You can check us out on Facebook or Instagram. When I opened last Christmas, there was a lot of things I wanted to add that was not able to do before we opened. Before the one year anniversary of my store, my goal was to complete those things. I wanted to add security cameras and purchase a good point-of-sale system so I could better keep track of stock since I am not physically there. Thankfully, I was able to do both. If you live in Dominica, I am currently shopping for the creole festival season if there is something you would like to see in the store feel free to comment here or send me a DM on Instagram.

18. Visit a Museum

I remember as a child I spent most of my summers going to different museums in the city. If you grew up in NY, I am sure you have a picture in front of the whale at the American Museum of Natual History. I do not remember ever visiting a museum in my adult life, and I feel like I am missing out big time! Do you guys have any recommendations?

19. Have a picnic/brunch with friends

Life gets so busy, and time with family and friends sometimes fall through the cracks. I want to be more intentional about setting time aside for the people that matter most. That’s probably the thing I miss most about living in Dominica. In Dominica, families are always together. Be it a beach day or a spontaneous cook up after work. In the U.S we get so busy, but we should never get too busy for family and friends.

20. Take myself to dinner and a movie

I will be moving soon (all on my own to a city where I do not know anyone), and I really need to get back to being comfortable with going places by myself. I hardly ever go to the movies (what good movies are out now?),  and I rarely eat out, but I think this will be a good start.

My birthday is next month, and there is only one more part of this 25 before 25 series. There are still some things I have not done yet on my list, so I really need to get to work! What about you guys? Are you accomplishing the goals you set for yourself earlier?

Shoutout: Something new I am thinking of doing to recognize the great people in my life. So my first shout out goes to my best friend, Danielle. She has been a great source of encouragement for me this week. Every moment when I felt really down, she would send me a random text. Thank you, Danielle.

As always, thanks for reading.

Love,

Dee

 

 

 

B In Graduate School

If anyone knows me, they know I take school very seriously. Growing up in a Caribbean household, education was always given such importance. My mom always said, “Deeana your education will take you places, and no one can ever take your education away from you.” She is correct; however, I think throughout my matriculation I stressed myself out over things that are now irrelevant. As I reflect on my grad school experience, I distinctly remember the tears I cried when I got a B. Yes, I cried real tears. That experience taught me so much, so I decided to share four things getting a B in Grad school taught me.

  1. Check pride at the door

Honestly, it took me a very long time to tell anyone I got a B. I had gotten all A’s so far and everyone was so proud of me. I was low-key ashamed to tell my friends and family I got a B. No one had ever made me feel incompetent in the past for my grades, so it was all in my head. Honestly, your friends and family won’t think any less of you because of a B. My close friends always express how proud they are of me for going to school full time and working full time, they don’t care about my grades.

  1. Remember the end goal

The ultimate goal for me is to obtain a Master’s Degree. Will a B stop that from happening? No, it won’t. It’s that simple. When you are stressing just ask yourself that question. “Will this issue hinder me from accomplishing my end goal?” If the answer is no, dust off your shoulders and move on!

  1. It is ok to be confident, but it is better to be prepared

My career is in human resources, and I got a B in Human Resources Management. I was so convinced that this class would be a walk in the park because after all, I do this at work every day. The course was not easy, yet I did not prepare accordingly. I did not read as much as I should have and I did not devote enough time to the assignments. My confidence came as a stumbling block. I am now aware of the mistake I made and making mistakes are ok, just as long as I don’t make the same mistake twice.

  1. No one cares

As harsh as that sounds, at the end of the day, no one cares about your specific grades if you have your degree. Whenever my current manager asks about school she never once asked, “Hey, what grade did you get in your last class?” When I apply for jobs in the future, my resume will not include that one B. If you are in high school grades matter so much more, because your grades will determine the college you get accepted to and the funding you receive, but it’s so different in grad school. I had to remind myself that at the end of the day, no one cares so why stress?

Can any of you guys relate? I hope this post inspires those of you who are still in school to stress less about the small things.  I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.